#MutualAid posts?

Why don’t people boost #MutualAid posts? This needs a thread on trust, tools, and the current limits of our #openweb. Saw this poll recently:

“For folks on here who don’t boost mutual aid requests, why is that?”
– 0% followers don’t like
– 8% I don’t like/agree
– 63% I curate what I boost
– 29% other/see comment

One comment stood out:

“Because #mutualaid is based on trust – we don’t have very good tools for this. So it's little better than charity at the moment on this #openweb reboot.”

And that hits the nail on the head: Mutual aid vs charity. The difference flows from power. Charity is hierarchical, Mutual aid, at its root, is about solidarity, reciprocity, and shared struggle.
But online, these two often blur because we lack the context and connection to see the difference.

Trust is relational, not transactional, boosting a request isn’t just about amplifying, it’s a mini trust signal. People hesitate because they’re not sure: Is this person part of my community?
Is this a real need or a scam? Will my flows see this as noise?

The current #openweb reboot lacks trust infrastructure, the #Fediverse gives us freedom, but not yet accountability. We have few native ways to: Verify reputations (without surveillance),
build relational trust over time, track the outcomes of help given, without these tools, curation becomes caution.

Without trust, mutual aid to often becomes charity with extra steps. A request without context, without connection, becomes a broadcast into the void. People scroll past, not out of malice, but because they don’t know what they’re being asked to join. It’s hard to feel mutual aid through a hashtag and transeunt fading toot.

We need tools that make trust visible, what would help?

• Federated reputation trails (based on community, not scoring)
• Personal endorsements or vouch systems
• Verified mutual aid circles tied to real-world organizing
• Transparency without compromising safety or privacy

Mutual aid thrives in networks, not platforms, most mutual aid posts are isolated asks. But mutual aid IRL is ongoing, collective, messy, relational. To make this work better, we need: Community profiles, not just individuals, project-based accounts with visible participation, local node mapping to show where people can plug in

A final thought is that the problem isn’t people being selfish, it’s that we’ve rebuilt our social media spaces with publishing tools, not relational tools. If we want mutual aid to work online, we have to stop treating it like just another kind of content. We need to compost the charity mindset and grow networked care from trust, not likes. So for now, boost with care. Build with purpose.